I keep reading the “singles” advice all over social media:
Stay single until you find the one who treats you right.
Stay single until you find the one who loves you the way you are.
Stay single until you find someone who respects you.
Blah, blah, blah.
I wonder who this advice is targeted toward. Do they really think that any of us are out there falling for someone and thinking, I know he/she doesn’t treat me the way they should, but I’m going for it anyway?
Nope. We fall in love for a lot of reasons and honestly, things often seem perfect in the beginning or else why would we? And then over time, we realize that the person we’re with doesn’t always treat us the way we want, respect us, or accept us as we are. It happens to anyone willing to risk loving and being loved.
I think more appropriate advice would be to take the time when you are single to learn to love, honor and respect yourself so you can teach others to do the same. We allow others to treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated. It’s time to uplevel our thinking and the best time to do that is when you’re forced to rely on yourself for love, acceptance, and encouragement.
Don’t stay single until…
Just use your single time wisely to keep getting better at loving yourself so you can expect more from your lovers in the future.
Wishing you all the best,